By employing a technique called temperature play—using hot or cold sensations to stimulate the neuroreceptors under your skin—you can add a little kink to your sex life, says Talia Wagner, a Los Angeles-based relationship expert. Take several ice cubes out of the freezer and set them into a bowl. If you really want to drive her wild, avoid the erogenous zones—like her nipples or inner thighs—until the very last minute. As you build up her arousal, her body will start to heat up, and those sensitive areas will feel even more sensitive when you eventually touch them with ice. Remember when Ralphie got his tongue stuck to the pole in A Christmas Story?